Last night, Pastor Gary Van Nyhuis’s sermon about preventing “drift” in relationships gave me some things to think about.

It covered things I had heard before:

  1. Loving like God loves us.
  2. Mutually supporting each other.
  3. Growing in friendship.
  4. Giving 100%.
  5. Putting our spouse first before everything, but God.
  6. Praying together.
  7. Reaffirming our commitment and vows.
  8. Accepting each other.

I felt sorry for the lady sitting in front of me. When Pastor quoted, Proverbs 18:22, (“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure…” NLT), he asked the husbands for an ‘amen.’ You could hear the murmur of “amen” ripple across the church.

The lady in front of me turned to her husband, and said,

“Why didn’t you say, ‘Amen’?”

“I was yawning.”

All around us, those who heard them laughed.

The sermon affected my husband, too! He woke me up this morning with breakfast in bed: runny eggs, (we call them liquid chicken), bacon, toast, and coffee with so much sugar and cream in it that it left a syrup in the bottom. It was just the way I liked it!

It’s not my birthday or anniversary; it’s just Thursday. Instead of wishing he would do it every day, I thought, “What can I do to top this?” The sermon changed my thinking.

Then I read these verses about vows:

Psalms 65:1, 2, “What mighty praise, O God, belongs to you in Zion. We will fulfill our vows to you, for you answer our prayers. All of us must come to you.” NLT

I always thought of vows to God as a missionary’s promise to move to a foreign land and share the gospel. But, we make the most important vow to God on our wedding day.

People ask me how we have stayed married for 33 years, especially since we were so young when we got married. I usually reply, “When I don’t want to keep my vow to my husband, I keep my vow to God. Then God can deal with him. God is much more persuasive than I ever could be.”

And for the man sitting in front of us – I recommend some runny eggs and toast, served to his wife in bed!

Dear Jesus,

Thank you for the reminder that we need to be more like you every day. You laid down your life for us. Thank you for the reminder to keep the vows we made to you on our wedding day. We will all answer to you.


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