I started kindergarten in New York when I was four years old. Mom said I wanted to go with Michele when I was three! I was in a hurry to grow up. When I was in my early teens, I asked God how I would recognize my husband.

He gave me four things:

  1. A Spirit-Filled Christian
  2. Blond Hair
  3. Blue Eyes
  4. Musician/Singer
  5. Football Player

On every date, I checked my list. I had a lot of first dates, but very few second dates. I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend; I was looking for the man with which to build a life. I prayed for God to bring me my husband after graduating from high school; but God didn’t answer my prayer when I wanted.

Meanwhile, David started kindergarten in Iowa when he was five. That year he had two major life traumas: 1) his parents divorced, and 2) he went through a windshield in a car wreck. It took 56 stitches to repair his face. His kindergarten teacher said he was behind “socially” and he had to repeat that grade.

He was also looking to build a life, not just find a girlfriend. He joined the National Guard as a junior in high school. After basic training, at the start of his senior year, he asked God to give him a football scholarship or to send him a wife.

God gave him both!

The scholarship was a small one at an expensive, private school. He chose not to accept it. A few weeks after praying that prayer, I moved to town and started playing the piano at his church. We were teenagers when we met, and married a year after he graduated from high school.

God provided a mate!

Isaiah 34:16, “Search the book of the Lord, and see what he will do. Not one of these birds and animals will be missing, and none will lack a mate, for the Lord has promised this. His spirit will make it all come true.” New Living Translation

Why are some still single?

  • One or the other is not ready. They may need to finish their education.
  • They have dreams/desires that are not in line with the purpose God has for them as a couple. (God called David and I to minister in the local church on a worship team. His dream to play football had to die. My dream to travel and sing had to die.)
  • One or the other does not have their heart right with God. It takes three to make a successful marriage. (When I think David is being mean to me, I turn him over to God and God takes care of it. I admit, it probably happens the other way around more often!) God waits until both parties are right with Him.
  • They are looking for perfection. If you are looking for “arm candy” or a “trophy wife,” you will overlook someone with which to build a great life! (David hasn’t changed since I met him. His friends are now getting wrinkles! The scars faded, and when the wrinkles started to replace them, his appearance didn’t change.)
  • They are overlooking the obvious. Many men marry the girl next door. Others don’t get to know her because she is the girl next door!
  • Their purpose can only be accomplished if they are single, see 1 Corinthians 7:7, 8.

“What’s a single person to do?”

Get your heart right with God.

Ask God how to recognize their mate.

Ask God what dream is in line with their purpose.

Look at a person’s heart, not their face. (How do they treat their Mom/Dad?)

Be friendly and get to know your neighbors.

Most important of all? WAIT!

Isaiah 40:31, “But those who trust (wait) in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” New Living Translation

Dear Father God,

Thank you for David! Help us to fulfill the purpose you have for us.

In Jesus Name,


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